I have been changed for good.

“It well may be that we may never meet again in this lifetime,
so let me say before we part
so much of me is made from what I’ve learned from you
You’ll be with me like a handprint on my heart
And now whatever way our stories end
Know you have rewritten mine by being my friend.” — from Wicked, “For Good”

Texas (of course), Oklahoma, Louisiana, Alabama, Tennessee, Georgia, Ohio, Illinois, Wisconsin, Colorado, California, Washington, Massachusetts, Maryland, and Ontario. And a dear friend from Minnesota who wasn’t able to come at the last minute.

An OB/GYN, an attorney, several RNs, entrepreneurs, academics, and technical experts… some are stay-at-home-moms and some aren’t. Some have children at home (from one child up to five kids), some have grown children, some don’t have children.

Fifty women are here in Fort Worth for ScrapShare Texas 4, gathered for a weekend of scrapbooking and laughter, tears and support, and incredible friendship. Some of us met for the first time this weekend, some of us are reunioning for the umpteenth time. Many, many hugs, finished layouts taped to the walls, and the various experts in the room periodically teaching technique classes through the weekend.

I am a very lucky woman to be able to share in this communion this weekend. I came last year and discovered a camaraderie unlike anything else I’ve experienced before. I planned all year to come back, and the day of travel finally arrived on November 1. I’ll be here for two more days, and it’ll send me home refreshed and ready to be thrust back into the daily routine of mommyhood.

What is it about online communities? We share a level of intimacy in our conversations online that I don’t even have with friends in real life. I know little pieces of these women’s lives…. Nel has three boys and is a single mom with amazing strength. Melissa is pregnant after much hoping and praying. Diane loves dogs like I do. A lot of us talk with our hands. Gaye moved from Oklahoma to Ohio this past year and has never missed a SSTX retreat. One of us is going through a very rough divorce right now and is here for moral support — of which we have plenty. At least two of us have disabled children, several have children with autism. Another has a family member undergoing cancer treatment and she has suddenly become the primary caregiver — I cried for her when she arrived. Another has had recent tumult in her family life that I won’t detail, but I know that she is getting bolstering from this gathering than none of us can possibly fathom. Many of us left home renovations in progress at home. Another is returning home to move to a new house when the weekend is done. Not a single woman in this room is a stranger, because we all share a passion for scrapbooking and documenting our lives, and because we share our triumphs and losses online. I have cared deeply for some of these women for almost 9 years now, and I know that my life is richer for it.

“Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better? Because I knew you, Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.” — from Wicked, “For Good”

One thought on “I have been changed for good.”

  1. Elaine, I love your post! It was a great, great time we all had together. It is such a wonderful time when a bunch of women with some commonalities and a lot of differences get together for an intimate weekend.

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